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Four Reasons People Do Not Change Their Life

Four Reasons People Do Not Change Their Life

Just about anyone I have met has told me there is at least one thing they want to change in their life and many of them have told me there is at least one thing they need to change.

I imagine your experience with people has been the same. Most people will tell you that they have at least one wish or desire to change something about their life and others will tell you there is something they need to change.

What intrigues me is the number of people who don’t make any type of move to change whatever the one thing the need or want to change. I have found that the number one reason for not attaining a certain goal is often a lack of motivation.

Some believe not attaining the goal they set is a lack of effort as opposed to a lack of motivation, but let’s give it some additional thought. Allow me to share with you some reasons why people don’t put the effort into making a lifestyle change.

#1 – People Have No Reason

In order to make any type of change in your life you need to have a good reason to do so.

Having a goal is wonderful but the reason you have to reach your goal is probably more important. If you want to change your job then you need to have a reason for doing so, reasons could include; wanting more money, to move to a new location or for more opportunities.

What is your reason for wanting to change your life?

#2 – Setting too large of a goal.

Some people set a goal so large they are unable to attain it.

Take for instances weight loss. I feel that this is a perfect example for many people.

If you need to lose 70 pounds don’t focus on this amount. Instead if you set smaller goals of 7 pounds per month you will find that you can stay on track better. If you meet this goal faster than one month that is great then just keep on going. If you are struggling or lose a little less then don’t give up, just refocus and set your next monthly goal at 5 pounds.

Most people will focus on the larger goal and forget the sub-goals they need to achieve on the journey.

So, have you broken your goals down into manageable steps?

#3 – Not Having a Vision

A wise king once said, “Without vision, the people perish.”

Having a vision of what you want is a great way to stay motivated and it is why many people recommend keeping track of your goals.

Keeping track of your goals can be done in various ways depending upon your goal. If your goal is to lose weight then keep photos and images of your progress. If it is another type of goal then keep a journal or blog of your journey.

Keeping track of your goals is a way you can see what you are struggling with and what you are accomplishing.

Are you keeping track of your goals?

#4 – No Support

Can you imagine having no support for success?

You may be a person who does not get any support to assist you in making the changes you need to make in life. If so, then you need to find a group of people to support and hold you up.

Not having a support network is another reason why many people don’t make the effort to change their lives. Getting the support from family and friends can really make a world of difference to your goals.

Who is supporting you during your change?

If you put these four factors into practice you will find that you have both the drive and commitment to finally make those lifestyle changes you have dreamed about.

Just some thoughts,

8 Ways to Enhance Your Leadership Example

8 Ways to Enhance Your Leadership Example

The late, great baseball player Joe DiMaggio is noted as saying, “A person always doing his or her best becomes a natural leader, just by example.”

I imagine Joe DiMaggio knew what he was talking about. His example made him a leader on the New York Yankees during his entire 13-year baseball career.  During that 13-year career he won the MVP trophy 3 times and was on the Major League All-Star Team each of those 13 seasons.

Due to his ability and his leadership, he was named to the All-Century team. He was elected to the Major League Hall of Fame in 1955.

Whether you’re head of a large corporation, a charity or head of your family, the best way to lead is by example. Leading by example builds trust and admiration. As a result, you can easily get much more accomplished in a shorter amount of time. It’s especially helpful for team leaders to lead by example so they can rally and inspire the group to greater accomplishment.

As a leader, do you lead by your example?

No matter who you are leading, here are a few ways to lead by example:

1 – Watch your words.

While actions speak louder than words, you still need to watch what you say. Words can have a serious impact on morale and enthusiasm. One harsh word said in haste can deflate the entire organization or team. A few words from a leader can discourage a team and make it difficult for them to show support and meet goals.

Instead, make it a focus to spend more time complimenting that criticizing. Make your speech words of encouragement. Doing this will allow your team to find refreshment in your words instead of cowering to them.

There are times to critique, but if you are always on the negative, your team will always expect the worst.

2 – Honor the chain of command.

In everyone corporation, business and even in your family there is a “chain of command.” The chain of command has to do with decisions and getting the team on the right track. There are tough decisions made by the chain of command from time to time.

In your position as a leader, you may not agree with some of the decisions handed down from the upper chain of command. Remember, you must always respect it to set a good example. Otherwise, confusion and chaos may occur, and the structural elements of the team will begin to fall apart.

3 – Do the work you ask of others.

Have you ever had a person above you on the chain of command dictate your actions without knowing what you are to do? I am sure everyone has.

As a leader, it is important for you to understand the role of people in your organization. I do not believe you must understand every detail, but you do need to understand the roles. Remember the TV Show “Undercover Boss?” The leaders on that show went to work as normal employees and many of them, if not all, had eye-opening experiences. They learned the jobs of their employees and it changed their outlook.

Leaders need to be willing to serve front of the team and not dictate from the back.

4 – Be ready to pitch in when needed and even when you aren’t.

I once heard that your servants towel needs to be bigger than your ego.

Serving your team shows that you are a member. While you may be a leader, you are a leader that is willing to help bear the burden.

Serving with your team builds trust and confidence. You’ll also gain knowledge and learn some skills that you may not be privy to if you’re constantly giving orders.

5 – Develop sensitivity and take special interest in others.

Pay attention to your team. Not everyone will always be on track every day and as a leader your attention to this detail will help the entire team.

Remember that everyone has a bad day. You should be sensitive to those days when your employee or subordinate just isn’t doing the job up to par. Rather than showing criticism, show sensitivity.

Also, make others on your team feel special and compliment often, when possible. Remember to spend more time complimenting instead of criticizing.

6 – Be prudent in choosing your battles.

This is HUGE! It many not seem that way at the time, but every battle does not need to be fought, or even fought wide-open. Don’t concentrate your efforts on the little conflicts which arise among team members. Instead, put your efforts into the more important decisions which must be made.

If you put all your efforts into dealing with small fires, you will be too exhausted to deal with the bigger decisions that must be made. I have seen too many leaders be constantly burdened with the minor things that they lose the major decisions.

Do not drain your abilities on the minor but focus on the major.

7 – Listen.

Remember the point on paying attention? This involves listening.

Do not just hear the words, but listen to them.

As a leader, it’s your job to know what’s going on at all times.  Don’t be so busy giving orders and guidance that you miss listening to your team members and hear the advice they offer. Even though you may be an expert in what you do, you can’t know everything. There may be a few good team members who can teach you a thing or two and provide great feedback about your team.

8 – Don’t take your team for granted.

One of the biggest team killers is to take your team for granted. When this happens the appreciate for each individual person gets lost.

Your team makes you look good – so never take one or all of them for granted but consider each as an important asset to what you desire to accomplish. Also, assume (until you’re shown differently) that each person on the team is a good and honest person who you can trust and rely on.

Final Thoughts

When you strive to set a good example for others, you won’t go wrong in your life’s choices. As a leader in your position, whether in business, church, community or family, others want to see you lead.

As a leader, your example matters. You can make a difference, but others need to see you making a difference by the example you set.

To your success,